There is no Fear in Perfect Love: A Valentine's Special -- By Lyn Chaffart

Valentine's Day is around the corner.

It's the time of flowers and candy and dreamy dinners for two. It's a time for special, gentle words, acts of kindness, and-romance! Love is truly in the air.

Do you know what you are going to give your Valentine this year?

I don't know about you, but I want my gift to my Valentine to be a gift of love!

But how do I do that? Where do I get it from? Certainly not from my selfish heart . . .

For so much of the world, love is an elusive, and often disappointing, emotion. If you don't believe it, just look at the lyrics to numerous popular songs: "Love Hurts"; "Love that Burns"; "Love Burns"; "Love on the Rocks"; "Haven't got Time for the Pain"; etc. Even Romeo, the great romantic of all times, said: "Is love a tender thing? It is too rough, Too rude, too boisterous, and it pricks like thorn."

I don't know about you, but that isn't the kind of "love gift" I wish to give my Valentine this year! I want my Valentine to receive a gift of perfect love!

But does perfect love exist?

Only in One: "In this the love of God was manifested toward us, that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through Him. In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins." (1 John 4:9-11 NKJV)

The Bible teaches us that we are only "complete" in Him: "For in Him dwells all the fullness of the Godhead bodily; and you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power." (Col 2:9-10 NKJV)

You see, intimacy and relationship are at the very heart of God! We know this because we know that God entered the Garden of Eden, after Adam and Eve had fallen, calling out to them: "Then the Lord God called to Adam and said to him, 'Where are you?'" (Gen 3:9 NKJV)

Think about it! The Creator of the universe, Who already KNEW Adam and Eve had sinned, Who KNEW they had broken the one and only commandment He had given them, still DESIRED to visit with, to commune with them! And God still desires that intimacy with His creation. The bottom line is this, friends! We are only complete in God!

Still aren't convinced? Then check this out in the Word of God:

"that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height - to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God." (Eph 3:17-19 NKJV)

Okay, that sounds like a bunch of religious mumbo-jumbo, doesn't it? But what does it have to do with what I plan to give my Valentine this February 14?

Why not spend some time between now and February 14 pursuing perfect love, the love that can only come from Christ?

Great idea. But how do I do that?

Simple, actually! By spending time in God's presence! Spending time working on our relationship with Christ will serve to benefit ALL of our earthly relationships!

How so?

Because when we spend time in God's presence, we become transformed into His image! "But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord." (2 Cor 3:18 NKJV)

And just what "image" are we being transformed into?

An image of love. "And we have known and believed the love that God has for us. God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God, and God in him." (1 John 4:16 NKJV)

Perfect love. "that you . . . May be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height - to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge . . ." (Eph 3:18-19 NKJV)

Love that takes away fear! "There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love." (1 John 4:18-19 NKJV)

As we abide in God's perfect love, His love will shine through in our relationships, and suddenly it won't be hard to love others the way He does, to do unto others as we would have them do unto us, to treat them the way God treats us!

To truly LOVE them!

Isn't that the gift you'd REALLY like to bestow on your loved one this year?

But wait, you say. I don't have a special Valentine. I don't have anyone I can lavish the perfect gift of love upon!

Then why not spend time in God's presence anyway? It will fulfill you like no other relationship ever can, AND it will prepare your heart for giving unselfish love to EVERYONE you meet. It will transform Valentine's Day from a day when we show love to one special person, into a day where we share God's perfect love with EVERYBODY!

In His love,



Lyn Chaffart, Mother of two teens, Speech-Language Pathologist, Author and Moderator for The Nugget, a tri-weekly internet newsletter, and Scriptural Nuggets, a website devoted to Christian devotionals and inspirational poems,, with Answers2Prayer Ministries,