Equality in Respect
"Yea, all of you be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility: for God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble." (1 Peter 5:5)
When growing up, the elderly were to be respected no matter how bad,
childish, or mean they behaved ... also toward children. And when children
are disrespected, even they know 'respect stops where abuse starts' (whether
it be physical or emotional). Anything called 'respect', after that, is only
adults refusing to protect their young while demanding that children become
victims, taking it quietly; wherein children begin to build an inward
dislike for those we had hoped they would love.
Sure, there is continued merit in respecting the elderly, when they are
behaving respectably, and to talk sensibly to them, even when they are a bit
unreasonable. But, when lashing out, further measures may be in order. And
still, such measures can be done in a respectable way.
If you have ever seen the elderly throw temper tantrums, it is reasonable to
hope to avoid them. If you have been threatened that your inheritance might
be taken away, you might need to consider if you are emotionally abandoning
your children to not speak up. Do you really 'need' the inheritance more
than your children's love, respect, and emotional well being? And, who
knows? It may only be another threat.
But, either way, if you want your children to 'know' they can come to you
for guidance and protection in more serious matters, trust begins where they
are.
You might need to remind the elderly it is not acceptable behavior to talk
to people that way and, when it involves children, if they can not contain
themselves, you will be taking the children home (or take them home); their
choice. They might scream absurdities wherein you can always respond that
you are sorry they feel that way, but that you have an obligation to your
children, too.
Other circumstances might be even more difficult. But, you can count on
this: God knows how to take a respectable stand, without becoming or
condoning bad behavior. And if you ask Him, He will guide your steps; every
time.
God bless everyone who looks after, loves, and respects the elderly; whether
for who they are or who they were. Just know that children are to be looked
after, loved, respected ... and protected, too.
"Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his
reward." (Psalm 127:3)
© 2007 by Joyce C. Lock
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